Eyes on You
Mirrors are dangerous for people who are proud.
As sinners, we are all narcissistic to some degree. But the enchanting power that mirrors have over most of us is different from just causing us to admire ourselves. When we look into a mirror some of us are not captivated by our beauty, we are condemned by our defects.
And for us, mirrors are not limited to those that we hang on our walls. Our fallen, proud hearts can turn just about everything into a mirror. Famous stars, models in magazines, our friends that do better in their studies and someone else’s successful business can all become our mirrors. Because when we look at them we see reflections of what we hope to see in ourselves. We see ourselves wanting what others have when we compare ourselves against them.
So this enchantment ends up being a narcissistic obsession not with just our own self, but also with the hope of achieving the constantly changing standards of beauty that the world shows us. And the power we desire our improved image to have is not to enchant ourselves by looking at our direct reflection, but to be enchanted by other people’s admiration of us. We thus end up falling into a trap where we are not satisfied enough if only we admire ourselves, but we want to be the centre of other people’s attention.
This is why focusing on our self-image and other people’s opinion about us is so dangerous. Our salvation, peace, and happiness are not found in improving our image or having the fleeting pleasure of others’ admiration. We are not designed to be satisfied with our own glory. We are designed to be satisfied with God’s glory.
1 Corinthians 10:31 (NIV)
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”
The Word of God is like a mirror as well as a window. We need to view our world through what God says in the Bible, then we come to see the reality based on His truth. The Bible is also like a mirror which reflects to us who Christ wants us to be. It is through the Bible that we see the “gospel of the glory of Christ who is the image of God” (2 Corinthians 4:4), and “the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world” (John 1:29).
Hebrews 12:1-2 (NET)
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, we must get rid of every weight and the sin that clings so closely, and run with endurance the race set out for us, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith. For the joy set out for him he endured the cross, disregarding its shame, and has taken his seat at the right hand of the throne of God.”
The restoration and health of our sinful, narcissistic soul lies in looking to Jesus. It is not about focusing on becoming a better you by having what others have. You need to see Jesus and then bask in the amazing truth that the more you look to Him, trust Him and obey Him, the more you will be conformed to His beautiful image.
Romans 12:2 (NIV)
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Be soaked in His Word so that your mind would be renewed daily and whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things (Philippians 4:8).
2 Corinthians 4:16 (NIV)
“Therefore we do not despair, but even if our physical body is wearing away, our inner person is being renewed day by day.”
Finally, be assured by this amazing truth that even though sometimes it may not seem like God is doing anything as yet, He knows how far you are from where He wants you to be at, and He will never leave nor forsake you. Each day He is doing something great inside of you, molding you into who He wants you to be. I encourage you to surrender to Jesus and fix your eyes on Him for He wants to make you like Him.
“Dear Heavenly Father, I know that I am not perfect, but I truly desire to be like You. Help me not to fall into the devil’s trap of trying to solve my pride by thinking less of myself. I thank You that I was fearfully and wonderfully made. Let me not focus on my self-image, instead, help me fix my eyes on You and let my inward man be renewed daily. Thank You for Your wisdom and love for me. I am assured that You have a plan and purpose for me as Your Word tells me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”